Through text, it's a lot easier, because I feel like I have a lot more time. I'm going to type out what I want to say in three to five different ways, take bits and pieces of each, and come up with something hopefully sensible.
In conversation, I would really love a pause button - stop time and just get it figured out to my best ability before we can move on again. Being that that's not possible, the consolation to it would be something that I was thinking about the other night.
I called it 'meta-conversation' because I couldn't think of anything better, and wasn't aware of any coined term that described what I was putting together in my head. By googling meta-conversation, I'm not the first person to think about it either. This person from two years ago has a video that really got the general idea of what I would want to do.
Basically, I would love the chance to stop a current conversation with a friend or family member, and start an analyzing second conversation about it.Doing all of the typical self-analysis during the conversation (the self-conscious thoughts, the wanting to say one thing, but thinking it would come off as a way you don't want, or just being unsure of what to say), but out loud, and the other person able to do the same.